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Maggie Smith's avatar

The best memoirs are those where the writer has not only experienced something unique but more importantly, has the emotional maturity to analyze it and comment on it in a meaningful way. That could come at any age and I'm glad you stuck with it. I also appreciated you sharing Version 1 vs Version 9) -so many writers tweak the opening instead of starting in a whole new place with more personal resonance.

Leigh Stein's avatar

thank you for noticing!

Christie Tate's avatar

You had me at Orinco Flow

Leigh Stein's avatar

it’s a crowd pleaser for all ages

Jennifer Ruth Keller's avatar

this made me laugh out loud because I just went through this phase with my revisions: “Finally, I came to the revelation that sounds obvious but is discomfiting to most memoirists: I was writing about myself.”

So many great nuggets and helpful reveals in this post.

Leigh Stein's avatar

it doesn’t make sense why a memoirist would be surprised to discover they’re writing about themselves but I see it happen all the time!

Gila Pfeffer's avatar

Ok so my birthday is in January and I’m booking you for a scarf dance party set to a live performance by Enya.

Leigh Stein's avatar

I’ll start planning my costume

Jen Singer's avatar

You truly are a writer's writer. You spoil us with the naked truth of publishing and access to insiders. Thank you.

Leigh Stein's avatar

thank you Jen!

Rafael Frumkin's avatar

I know it never feels like it at the time, but I think you played it so smart by resisting the "commercial narrative of victimhood/abuse" pressures. The highs are higher than life and the lows are dangerously low in any form of addiction, and love addiction is no exception! As for marketing, imagine refining TSwift so she's more waking up in blood than waxing poetic about the bad people who wronged her. Victimhood may sell more readily right now, but I bet self-reflection sells more enduringly ;)

Leigh Stein's avatar

The memoir was already written and scheduled for publication when I had coffee with Melissa Febos and she mentioned love addiction and I said “what is love addiction?” 💀💀💀

Rafael Frumkin's avatar

!!!! Ahhahha DEAD! And also...surely there's room in this life for more than one Leigh Stein memoir?

Leigh Stein's avatar

I’m scared to find out what could possibly happen to me that would inspire a second!!!!

Rafael Frumkin's avatar

Lmao I was thinking "ongoing + increasing literary prominence" and "reflections from a life in letters" but NOW I'M ON THE EDGE OF MY SEAT LEIGH WHAT'S THE DRAMA???

Leigh Stein's avatar

“Reflective Dispatches from My Ongoing Literary Relevance” is printing money

Rafael Frumkin's avatar

You laugh but yes, actually! Yes it is!

Jolene Handy's avatar

Thank you for sharing this, Leigh. xx

Angela Kelsey's avatar

Thank you for describing this tightrope so honestly and eloquently: "I wanted my pain to be taken seriously, but I also didn’t want what I’d suffered to become my identity."

Kellan Ella McDonough's avatar

Nice! I think subconsciously I took risks in my 20s because I knew with my writer's ambitions and goals that I had to live an interesting life to have anything to write about. Great piece. Thank you for opening up. I will have to read your memoir now, and congrats on the Anniversary! A housekeeping note: I added tomorrow's Live to my calendar, but I have a meeting then. Will there be a replay?

Leigh Stein's avatar

Yes! I'll send out the recording to everyone tomorrow afternoon. Thanks for reading!

Leslie Daye Wells's avatar

Leigh, your writing is so good it makes me mad. You're a phenomenon, a force of nature. An enchantress. And an inspiration to anyone who seeks the creative life. Thank you.

Leigh Stein's avatar

aw I’m flattered, thank you!

Rebecca Black's avatar

Loved Land of Enchantment so much. Only bought it last year! It defies simple categorization and that's why it has that lasting power.

Leigh Stein's avatar

thanks Rebecca!

Lorrie's avatar

You and your work are impressive.

Jill Gallagher's avatar

Thank you for sharing the evolution from an essay to a memoir and all of the hard work that came with it. Very illuminating!

Katherine Gleason's avatar

Happy anniversary

Amber's avatar

oooof. so good. you'll always be my newsletter queen!

Leigh Stein's avatar

writer’s writer 🫡

Sherrhonda Denice's avatar

This was a wonderful article! Thank you for your transparency.